I Like It When You Talk Dirty To Me

Maybe do something different this year for Valentine’s Day!   The same old flowers or Chocolates yadi yadi yadi…Something a little intimate perhaps?  I don’t mean materialistic, but you can do that as well.  Something out of the ordinary.

 

How about a little dirty talk?  Spice up your conversation with some hot  phrases to entice your lover into the mood.

 

Now, you may think I’m nuts, “we never use that type of play or language”.  The truth is most people get excited with sensual conversation, but many are too shy or lack the skill of where to begin. 

 

“He/she finds it offensive”.  Well, in very few cases, this may be, but I think it’s worth the risk.

Many couples tend to fall into a routine, when it comes to sex.  This, is one sweet way to break that routine.

 

For beginners, just play out verbally, your usual play.  To be cautious, don’t explore your fantasies yet.  Always speak softly.

 

You should perhaps discuss it first, so your partner doesn’t think you’ve totally flipped or learned new tricks elsewhere.

 

Flirtatious comments to begin, stating in a forward fashion what your intentions are. 

“I’m going to make you so hot.”  Or “You make me so horny.”  is not a bad place to start.

 

Prelude foreplay with a discussion about your fantasies.  It’s a two way street, make sure you enquire about your partner’s fantasies.  If this, goes well, be prepared and be willing to go to the next step.  You’ll quickly figure it out by your partner’s reaction.

 

Communication is the first key, when it comes to satisfying sex. 

 

Tell him/her what you’d like to do.  Tell him/her how you’d like to do it.  Tell him/her what you’d like them to do.  Tell him/her what you’re about to do.  Tell him/her what it’s going to do to you…  Tell them how something makes you feel.

 

You don’t have to sound like Ron Jeremy or Cherri Poppins!  You might scare your partner.  Although, it maybe out of the ordinary, try to be yourself.

Communicate how you feel:

"I just love it when you touch my…"

Say what you want:

"I want you to look at me”  or  “ Turn over I want to touch your…”

Express how something makes you feel:

"What you’re doing is so hot”  Or  “ that makes me so horny or  it makes me so hard, or I’m getting so wet.”

Express what you’re actually doing in a delicate way.
"Right now I’m doing this, and it makes me so horny I’m going to …”   Talk it out!

 

Here is some ear candy I came across, that might be educational! 

 

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Progressing to the next step.

 

If you’ve had positive feedback on the above, maybe next time, move on to the next step. 

Either way, increase the level of sexual expression, for example, giving instructions during sex.  For some people this works wonders.

 

You may want to try some of these phrases…

 

I want to rub your clit until your in la-la land.  I want to slowly take the head of your cock and swallow it.  I want to kiss your pussy until you beg me to go in you.

 

I want you to paint my face.

Slowly suck my nipples and then nibble them.

 

Pound me or fuck me hard or fuck me gently.  Repeat it.   If it’s at that moment of an orgasm let them know your cumming or you’re going to cum.

 

Here’s a little more ear candy!  

 

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If you don’t usually use toys with your partner, Valentine ’s Day might be a good time to introduce one.  The discovery is usually an exciting moment.  Discuss the new toy; share the possibilities to make sure you know where you’re going with it.

 

 

Discussing Fantasies

 

This is usually a way to increase arousal from both partners.  Listening and discovering your partners secrets is just as exciting as telling about them.  Never laugh at your partner’s fantasies.  Share and let them know if your willing to engage them.

 

 Do you talk dirty during your play time?

                                               Happy Valentine’s Day!