Changing the Channel - Cheating or Swinging?
It’s about the thrill, the novelty, it’s about discovering, it’s about not getting caught. It’s about fresh
meat, it’s about the conquest and it’s by no means a new idea. Is swinging the same as cheating, but with a permit?
Monogamy vs Polygamy? sure it’s a cultural thing, but it’s there.
This short clip was produced by C H U M Television in Canada. The clip is on their website. Why am I featuring them? Because I think they’re an eye opener for your own sexual views.
Here’s a clip on the subject of infedlity from S E X T V.
Related articles are numerous. Here’s one. This discussion can go in so many directions, I think I’ll stop here.
Tough statistics, but 50 to 60% of men and woman will end up cheating. So where do you stand? (as far as you know).
2 comments
I think the interesting “reason” for infidelity listed in the article is “to satisfy sexual curiosity”
If you are that curious and either your partner isn’t, or you don’t feel able to communicate that curiosity then you have some issues to deal with. Not necessarily huge, insurmountable issues, but issues nonetheless.
If you have communicated your curiosity successfully to your partner and had those suggestions/feeling rejected/rebuffed, then there is an obvious question. “Is your sexual curiosity worth sacrificing your relationship for?”. After all a relationship is not just about sex. If you bottle up such urges, curios or otherwise you could end up resenting your partner, but if you can come to terms with them being unreceptive then it would be worth forgoing your inquisitiveness to ensure long term happiness.
Otherwise there’s a need to develop your communication sufficiently to introduce what might be unfamiliar, alien or initially unacceptable ideas to your partner.
In the case of “curiosity” unless your partner by dint of sexual orientation, gender or otherwise is unable to fulfil then seeking out another before thoroughly exploring the other options is showing a lack of commitment that can only lead to problems.
And I wouldn’t get chance to cheat without Suze knowing ‘cos she always wants to be there too.
Oliver Twist comes to mind too - “Please sir, I want some more.” That’s another fine reason. I know many people who would jump at the opportunity to cheat because they claim “they don’t get enough” . Similarly, in other cases, their partner travels a lot for work and when they finally get to be together, one or both are too tired or stressed out. Out of context, one of the partners grabs the first opportunity for an adventure.
To maintain a healthy relationship, you have to put it first. I know of nothing that’s easy when it comes to this. Yes comprimises are part of the play, it’s give and take. If not, because of circumstances, work it out and make sure you get that time together.
As the clip states, the evolution of relationships in the last 50 years have resulted in a change of priorities in what a couple might seek. Sex is now at the top of that list. As stated by Alec, there’s a lot more to a relationship.
Looking at this concept a little closer, “sacrificing your relationship”:
Our values change with our own time lines or within the relationship.
If you can’t adapt, “to ensure long term happiness”, I would say move on rather than be unhappy. Don’t cheat.
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